A Group for Men Who Want to Build a New Default Under Pressure.

Train a steadier response under pressure with weekly reps, clear structure, and brotherhood that keeps you accountable.

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You know better. You’ve read the books. You’ve done the work. You can name your values and your triggers.


Then real life hits.

A tense conversation. A stressful meeting. A critical comment. A conflict at home. A deadline. A money pressure. A feeling of being judged, dismissed, or disrespected.

And in the moment, you do the thing you promised you wouldn’t do.

You snap and get sharp. Or you shut down and go quiet. Or you go into control mode and start managing everything. Or you disappear into work, scrolling, substances, porn, food, or busyness to get relief.

Afterward, it hits. Regret. Shame. Distance. That “why am I still like this” feeling.

Here’s why good men get stuck.

It’s not because you don’t care. It’s not because you lack discipline. It’s not because you need more information.

It’s because stress hijacks your system.

Your body shifts first. Fight, flight, shutdown, or freeze. Your mind follows your state. Your options narrow. Your best intentions go offline. That’s why you can know what to do and still not do it.

Most men get trapped in a few cycles.

Pressure Cooker

You hold it together in public, then blow up or go cold in private because it’s where your system finally drops control.

 

Shame Loop

You mess up, then you beat yourself up. You promise to do better, then repeat the same pattern because nothing underneath changed.

 

Control Loop

When life feels uncertain, you clamp down. It looks like strength but it’s usually fear. It creates distance in your relationships and drains your energy.

 

Shutdown Loop

You go numb or avoid hard conversations. Problems don’t get repaired. Disconnection grows.

The way out isn’t more knowledge. It’s training a new default under pressure.

 

That means:

  • Notice your body cues earlier.
  • Understand the parts of you that protect.
  • Return to steady faster.
  • Repair instead of spiral.
  • Lead your life from calm strength, not fear and reactivity.

 

That’s what The Men’s Collective is built for. Brotherhood plus a process. So your reactions finally match your values.

Build a New Default with a Process That Works

Apply now to start training weekly reps that hold up under real-life pressure.

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The Core Skills We Train Over 8 Weeks


Learn how to regulate in real time.
Not after you blow up. Not after you shut down. You’ll catch the early cues in your body, slow the moment down, and choose a better response.

Build tools for presence under stress.
Simple practices you can use at work, in conflict, and in everyday pressure. The goal is not perfect calm. The goal is flexibility and faster recovery.

Deepen relational awareness.
You’ll start seeing how your nervous system state and protective parts shape your tone, timing, and reactions. You’ll learn how to repair faster and communicate with more clarity.

Train with community support.
You won’t do this alone. You’ll have a brotherhood of men who get it, plus structure and accountability that keeps the work active.

The Process: Apply, Train, Stay Consistent

1. Apply for the Next Cohort

Complete the short application so we can understand what you’re dealing with and what you want to change.

2. Get Confirmed + Onboard

If it’s a fit, you’ll get the start date, onboarding details, and everything you need to begin the 8-week training.

3. Train Weekly and Continue

Follow the weekly structure, and build reps in real life. After 8 weeks, continue for ongoing coaching, accountability.

Apply now to build consistency, recover faster, and show up with integrity at home and at work.

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Start With the Cohort, Then Stay Consistent With the Collective

The 8-week cohort is the entry point and the baseline for how we work. Once you finish, the Collective is an optional next step to keep training and stay consistent.

8-Week Cohort

Build a new default under pressure with an 8-week training cohort built for real life. You’ll get weekly written lessons, simple prompts and tracking, and LIVE calls to apply the work with coaching, accountability, and brotherhood.

What you’ll do in 8 weeks

  • Train for pressure: work, home, relationships

  • Catch reactions early (nervous system awareness)

  • Work with protective patterns, not shame

  • Weekly lesson, prompts, tracker

  • Live call: coaching, reflection, accountability

  • Cohort brotherhood support

$950 or two monthly installments of $525

Ongoing Collective

Stay consistent after the cohort with ongoing coaching, accountability, and brotherhood. Keep training the same skills, track stress and recovery, and have a place to reset when life gets heavy so you don’t drift back into old patterns.

What you’ll do ongoing

  • Regular live calls for coaching and integration

  • Track stress, triggers, and recovery

  • Stay sharp when life spikes (work, kids, conflict)

  • Reset fast with support and accountability

  • Train alongside men practicing the same skills

  • Keep your growth active under real pressure

$95/month (must complete cohort first)

Build a New Default with a Process That Works

Apply now to start training weekly reps that hold up under real-life pressure.

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“The Men’s Collective helped me go from isolated and overthinking everything to feeling safe, grounded, and confident in who I am.”


“Before the Men’s Collective, I felt alone and isolated, and I constantly overthought conversations at work and at home. After joining, I feel safer talking with other men and I can rationalize things without spiraling into anxiety, depression, or isolation.”

— Jeff, Pastoral Counselor and Father 

“I stopped living in my head and learned to tune into my whole body, which helped me understand how to feel more like myself.”


“Before, I judged my health by my feelings and stayed stuck in my head. Now I can tune into my whole body, name what I’m feeling, and notice more of what’s going on. That awareness makes me feel more attuned to my body and who I am.”

— Jim, Company Founder

Your Coaches and Accountability Partners

We’re trained professionals, but we’re also men and fathers. We’ll teach the skills, coach the reps, and hold the standard—so you don’t drift back into old defaults.

Travis Goodman

Travis Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and mind-body coach, a husband, and a dad of three. He’s spent over a decade helping men build steadiness under stress, recover faster after conflict, and show up with more presence at home and at work.

Travis’s work blends nervous system training with practical, real-life application. He’s trained in attachment-based approaches, EMDR, Polyvagal-informed models, and IFS-informed methods, but keeps the focus simple: notice what’s happening sooner, interrupt the old pattern, and build a better default through reps and accountability. In the Men’s Collective, Travis leads with clarity, respect, and direct coaching that helps men follow through.

Kyle Harwick

Kyle Harwick is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) based in Newport Beach, CA. He works with men who look like they have it together, but feel overwhelmed by stress from work, relationships, or life changes. When pressure builds, the people closest to you often notice it first.

Kyle’s style is relaxed, direct, and practical. He helps men slow things down, get clear on what is driving the reaction, and build consistent reps that hold up in real life. In the Men’s Collective, Kyle supports men in staying grounded under stress, recovering faster after conflict, and showing up with more clarity, integrity, and follow-through at home and at work.

We’ll teach the tools and coach the moments that matter. So you recover faster, repair sooner, and stay grounded when it gets heated.

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Free Tools for Real Life

Get a feel for the work before you apply.

The podcast and short videos cover the same pressure moments we train for in the cohort, stress, conflict, leadership, fatherhood, and relationships.

Pick one and take a single rep into your next heated moment.

Frequently Asked Questions

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If you are interested in being considered for our next cohort, please complete the form below. We will contact you when spots open up.